Self-Esteem is the ability to recognize one’s own worth. These feelings of self-worth develop very early in childhood, thus parents play a great role in determining what their child thinks about himself. A strong self-esteem will act as a weapon against the challenges in life, your child will face. So, parents should avoid certain behaviors that can impact their child in a bad way.
A child’s personality is the reflection of parental behavior. Your kids might not do what you say, but they will do what you do. If a parent is affectionate and loving but thinks low of himself, the child certainly will have low self-esteem. If parents have arguments often, the child will think he cannot do anything to stop it, he will feel helpless and depressed thus leading him to have a low self-esteem. If a parent is abusive, the child will feel he’s not good enough that’s why he’s being treated that way, that will lead him to create a bad self-image in his mind and will cause him problems later in life-like anti-social behavior.
The children of over_protective parents might think they cannot take care of themselves , that will make them depressed in difficult situations. On the other hand do not make the kid feel as if he’s the centre of the world and he will get everything he wants, whenever he wants, you will spoil him by encouraging him in his bad habits and he will grow up to be a Narcissistic and a Self-centered person. You need to prepare your child for the real world, your job is to make sure your child grows up to be a realistic, optimistic and a mature person. How can you achieve this goal and help your child develop strong self-esteem?
Be a role model for your child, have a strong self-esteem yourself, set goals for him and if your child fails, encourage him by telling him his strengths, pointing out his weakness and helping him overcome it. Compliment your child, but do not exaggerate. Do not compare him to other children and do not criticize him in-front of them or anyone. Make him realize he should be an independent, confident and a unique person.
If you’re strict, your child won’t feel comfortable in telling you his problems. Provide your child with the environment in which his abilities can flourish. You’re the person who can bring out the best in your children.
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Parental behavior does play a large role in adult behavior and self esteem. I completely agree with you that over protective parents (aka helicopter parents) create damage to children’s self esteem. Self esteem is strengthened when we try new things; not easy things that we can easily accomplish but more difficult new behaviors.
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Thanks so much for stopping by my blog this morning. I started browsing and stopped at this post. You hit the nail right on the head! I truly believe that children grow mentally in correlation to their interactions with their parents. I feel that learning is subjective and therefore children tend to follow, by association, in their parents’ footsteps.
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This is SO important. Good post!
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You need to prepare your child for the real world –Yes! But, most parents want to ensure kids have a happy childhood that they have the freedom to learn and not to learn. When these kids are graduated from college, with the education they have, they not only can’t find a job but also face huge debts…
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Having a happy childhood depends on parental behavior. If parents are overprotective, the kid will never be independent and if they are abusive, it results in an unstable personality later in life. So there shouldn’t be any extreme in a parents’ behavior. One should give their kids freedom to learn and explore.
Anyway, thanks for your comment. Be a frequent visitor and have a wonderful day.
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I can’t remember many days in childhood when I was not screamed at, hit(the act hurt much more than the paddling) and punished and mother never seemed impressed by any of the impressive accomplishments earned and skills expressed. Probably contributed to 35 years active alcoholism. It took me decades in adulthood not to unwittingly create circumstances in which the consequences placed me in peril. See I was a bad boy and created my punishments. I have broken free, realized I was a dern good kid and liked school and do not need positive or negative influences for self esteem. I am good at what I do as I perform with craftsmanship and am secure accepting victories and/or disappointments. The book NECESSARY LOSSES was instrumental in coming to these realizations. And 11 and a half years clean and sober.
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I’m sorry your mother treated you that way, but it seems you’ve turned out okay, but there aren’t many people who realize their worth after being abused by parents. Anyway, I, myself have over-protective parents and because of that I’m not too social (I guess,as much as I should be) and I end up getting anxiety attacks in social situations.The point is Parental behaviour does count a lot and your parents leave an imprint’ of their behaviour on your adult life.
Thank you very much for dropping by!
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